The 5 Stages of a DQ
By Chandler Brandes, Swimming World College Intern.
DQ. Disqualified. Getting rung-up. Deeked. A big “X” next to your name on the results sheet. That-official-must-be-seeing-things.
There’s no pleasant way to say it. No matter how you phrase it, it sucks. It’s the worst thing that can happen to a swimmer (besides thinking practice is going to be easy and it ends up being really hard, of course).
Everyone has been disqualified before; it happens to the best of us. Sometimes you just know you did something illegal, other times it comes as a complete and utter shock. Either way, experiencing a DQ (and not the ice cream type) can be heartbreaking.
Here are the five stages of experiencing a disqualification:
1. Denial
There’s no way I could’ve gotten disqualified. The official definitely raised their hand for the lane next to me.
The first reaction after learning you’ve been disqualified is denial, especially if you didn’t know what you did constituted as a DQ. You think that there’s no way this could happen to you. You definitely didn’t touch with one hand on your breast-to-free turn. You couldn’t have done flutter kick during butterfly. It wasn’t you who went past the 15-meter marker. Nope, not a chance.
2. Anger
Why me?! This isn’t fair! How could this have happened? The official was clearly out to get me.
After being in denial, the next stage is anger. It’s perfectly okay to be angry and upset after being disqualified, but don’t take your anger out on your coach, teammates, or those around you. Remember, the official does not have a personal vendetta against you.
3. Bargaining
If this DQ is overturned I PROMISE I will never breathe off my walls and never pull on the lane line again. At least not all the time.
The middle stage is bargaining. You’re praying to the swimming gods that a miracle will happen and your DQ will go away. In your mind—or even out loud—you’re bargaining with yourself. Maybe if you don’t skip cool down the ruling will change? If you vow never to do one-arm butterfly again the “DQ” will disappear from the results? Anything could happen, right?
4. Depression
I’m so upset, I don’t know how I’m going to get through my other races.
You’re no longer in denial, you’re no longer angry, you’re no longer trying to make amends with the official. You’re straight-up depressed. Crying into your goggles, sulking on deck, thinking it’s the end of your swimming career. While it’s okay to be upset over a disqualification, do not dwell on it for too long. Put it behind you and don’t let it negatively impact your next race or the remainder of the meet.
5. Acceptance
It’s okay. I’ll work on it in practice so I won’t DQ next time.
Sometimes, all you can do is laugh and move on. While the DQ may be heartbreaking, what’s done is done. Learn from your mistakes, accept what has happened, take a deep breath in, and let it go.
If all else fails, treat yourself to some Dairy Queen.
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you have make mistakes to get better!
That’s what we tell the kids! Dairy Queen!
Not on topic, but the picture shows the lanes laid out for a SCY meet. Do they actually use all the lanes for racing at once, or is only part of the pool used, or split down the middle? Never done a SCY meet, as in the UK we just have 25m pools everywhere, and then there’s usually only about 6 lanes on average.
Neil: Usually 6-8 lanes used in SCY; rest are for warm-up/warm-down. At times they will use ten in prelims to make the meet run a little faster, then use 8 for consolations and the final. For the real senior members in swimming there used to be a 20 yard pool! Most of those were only four lanes wide. A real treat on relays, and historically we did have a 55yard pool for racing too; but that was outdoor.
Sounds like Elisabeth Kubler Ross MD Five stages of grieving